I have called this section Live Well as we owe it to ourselves to live our lives as well as we possibly can. I know what I have been through is at the extreme end of most people’s challenges in life, but whatever life throws at us, taking a positive decision to look after yourself is key to coping with anything, for our physical and mental health. The only medication I have been on since the accident, are painkillers and sleeping pills at the very beginning. I honestly believe that I have avoided anti depressants because I have taken control of my health and nourished my body. I have kept my emotional battery topped up so whatever the day throws at me, whatever mood I wake up in, I am in the best possible position to cope with it. I drink very little as I learnt early on, that a hangover and grief are not a good combination.
Of course some days are very painful and I feel incredibly low, missing Emily and Nicko terribly or getting frustrated with my leg. These feelings are completely normal after what I have been through and I now know that I will come through those days and feel better again. I also know that my ‘down’ days would be worse and more frequent if I wasn’t being so compassionate with myself and trying to live as well as I can. When you strip everything back the only thing we have is our body and mind and we need to look after them. We all spend so much time looking after other people - children, our other halves, relatives and friends, we often come last in the line of priorities. We need to put ourselves first as if we don’t then we are of no use to anyone else.